Reply to Fatima, Dangerous driving

http://fatimaafser.blogspot.com/

I am sorry I cannot shed light on it, quite the opposite, I will add more darkness, beacause in my home country there is apparently the same situation: more and more people who are leading and rulling the state do break the speed limits quite often, and what is allarming, they are mostly not caught in the act. And when they are time to time caught the amount of money they have to pay on speeding fees cannot prevent them from doing it again. Maybe a new law could help to deal with it.

Reply to Karen, Graffiti, is it really bad?

http://karen-summersun.blogspot.com/

I both disagree and agree with Karen, graffiti is definitely an art (I was taught it at my previous school, an art school) but in my opinion it should not appear on walls of private houses (without the permition of the owner) and historical buildings, especially if the buildings are on the list of UNESCO. Can you imagine the Prague castle decorated with such thing? I am sorry but I rather don't.

Reply to Karen

http://karen-summersun.blogspot.com/

Surely it is disrimination (!), not only of obese people but also of very tall people who can hardly place themselves within the seats. I am tall so I know what I am speaking about (in if somebody suggests that I might be also fat and that's the reason why I can't fit in, I dare to disagree, because my BMI is 19.6). And I hope that Ryanair will not tax passangers for breathing air on board!

Dogs poo, dogs do

I reply to Karen Owen, April 28, 2009

http://karen-summersun.blogspot.com/

After all what I read, I must agree with you. Obviously, the dogs/cats problem is international (I am from the Czech Republic) because in my country it is just the same case. When you open the door, it is always better to watch where you step. By the way, I think it would be worth the price to place the horribly stinking think in front of the dog-walker´s house (if it was his dog, of course).

Questioner

Questioner:

Age? 21

Sex? F

What is your degree subject (both if joint)? Creative and Professional Writing & English

Does ‘Being Bad’ relate well to the other modules you are taking? It does.

If so, how? And if not, why not? It relates to Creative Writing.

Have you found ‘Being Bad’ too demanding, too easy, or at an appropriate level? Quite appropriate.

Do you think the list of topics covered on the module was appropriate? Yes, I do.

Are there any topics not included in the module that you would like to see included? Emotional blackmail or blackmail in general, extravagant fashion and life style…

Do you think that the format for classes has worked well? Yes.

What did you think of the module team? Interesting.

Do you think it would have been better to have had more:

Small group discussions? I do not think so.

Discussion and debate among the class as a whole? This could be agreeable.

Information and talk from lecturers? This was appropriate.

The approach taken in the module is interdisciplinary (drawing on perspectives from English Literature, Film Studies, Creative Writing, Philosophy, Media Studies and Politics): do you think this a useful way of approaching the topics covered in the module? I do. For writers are all the things mentioned above interesting and useful.

Do you think that interdisciplinary modules are a good idea? I strongly agree.

Do you think you have benefited from the interdisciplinary approach taken in the module? Yes, I have benefited from it.

Would you like to see more modules that cover this kind of subject matter? Why not? (i.e. Yes.)

Are you planning to take the follow-up module PH2004 ‘It Shouldn’t Be Allowed’ at level 2? I would like to, but it depends on my schedule.

Would you recommend ‘Being Bad’ to a friend? Yes, I would.

Do you think that the blogs (web logs) were a good idea? Yes, but I did not like the idea that each post had to be made on a different day.

What did you think of the other assessments (e.g. would it be better to have one longer assessment rather than two shorter ones?)? I was glad that there were two shorter assignments. (The creative piece was a good idea as an assignment.)

What have you learned from the module? I learnt where to find new topics for my writing.

What parts of the module have you found most useful and why? Streaming of the clips and accompanied by tutor’s comments.

What parts do you think were a waste of time and why? I think that breaks between the first and the second part of lectures were not necessary.

Are there any other comments you wish to make regarding ‘Being Bad’? No more questioners, please.

Crib from a crib

Crib from a crib

One my ex-classmate, a girl, was so afraid of writing the final test of biology, that she made 27 pieces of crib sheets and marked each of them from 1 to 27. Then she hid them on several different places (including her underwear). But she attached the 3rd sheet to a neighbour’s backs who was sitting in front of her and the professor spotted it and asked her about the cheat sheets number 2 and 1. Nevertheless, she couldn’t remember where she precisely placed them and finally had to unveil all of her “written helpers”. Surprisingly, the professor (laughing at her previous “striptease”) didn’t take the test from her, but praised her for the effort she put into her test-preparation, and later used the 27 sheets as teaching utility.

If only all teachers and professors were so tolerant. On the other hand, at higher level of education it is becoming more common, that teachers let their students use hand-made cheat sheets when rote memorization is not necessary.

I do not agree with cheating or academic dishonesty, but on the other hand I think that the idea of using crib sheets made by students themselves, when they do not have to know everything by heart, is good.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheat_sheet
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Academic_dishonesty

Evil jokes

Evil jokes

Has ever happened to you that the wonderful virtual partner you were chatting with via inter-net was actually your best friend making fun of you? If not, there might be something different of that kind which happened to you:

E.g.1) You receive a message that your mother is dead, but when you come home the opposite is true.

E.g. 2) A beggar asks you to give him/her 5 pounds, but then you discover that the beggar is actually your disguised friend.

E.g. 3) A masked man wearing FBI T-shirt wakes you up in the middle of the night with a gun aiming at you and yelling: “Happy birthday, brother!”

Evil jokes or hoaxes, for somebody great fun, for the other person it may be a nightmare.


More info: http://diskuse.dama.cz/d.php?d=304
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google

Extravagant fashion

Extravagant fashion

Lolita fashion – by Vogue scorned, but by Lolitas loved Japanese fashion style. Unfortunately, many people do not know about the existence of this fashion style and this unawareness causes troubles to those who wear it. Daily Lolitas can be seen nearly all over the world, most of them are in Japan and the USA, but even there they have problems with intolerant people who do not like their extravagant but in my opinion lovely dresses. On the other hand, I know it is risky to be different from the “herd”.

Three main styles:
● Sweet Lolita – also goes under the name “amarori”; the sweetest of Lolita styles and may be also most popular
● Gothic Lolita – one of the darker styles of Lolita; also called “gosurori”
● Classic Lolita – one of the most elegant styles of Lolita fashion; also called “curasshiku”

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita_fashion
http://www.twinisles.com/japan/culture/c011.php


P.S.: I hope that this article will help to increase tolerance towards different fashion styles as Lolita fashion, alternative fashion, etc.

Sexism

Sexism

E.g. 1) A man complaining about a woman who drives her car too slowly:

"Woman, naturally! Can´t she go faster? She could have calmly managed it before the red light!"

E.g. 2) A woman applying for a job.

"So you are interested in this job, Mrs. Abc, aren´t?"

"Yes, I am."

"Do you have children?"

vs.

E.g. 3) A man being divorced and wishing to be allowed by the court to care of his child:

"The court decided in favour of mother."

E.g. 4) A man applying for a job (wishing to be a secretary):

"We are sorry, but the job is not available."

This is simply called male an female chauvinism. But when it comes to misogyny and misandry and other serious cases of intolerance towards the opposite sex, I would prefer the term discrimination. Discrimination which has actually no good reason and purpose to exist.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexism

http://news.zdnet.com/2422-13568_22-154407.html

Bribing

Bribing

Bribery, a form of pecuniary corruption, is an act implying money or gift given that alters the behavior of the recipient. Bribery constitutes a crime and is defined by Black's Law Dictionary as the offering, giving, receiving, or soliciting of any item of value to influence the actions of an official or other person in discharge of a public or legal duty. The bribe is the gift bestowed to influence the recipient's conduct. It may be any money, good, right in action, property, preferment, privilege, emolument, object of value, advantage, or merely a promise or undertaking to induce or influence the action, vote, or influence of a person in an official or public capacity. [1]

[1] Citation from: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bribery


Bribery or not?

The general meaning of bribery is already explained above; but can be a parent buying an expensive toy to his/her offspring (in order to persuade the child to stay quiet and not to tell the other parent about that s/he forgotten to pick up the child from school and the poor thing was waiting there for him/her in cold weather two hours) accused of bribery? And when parents buy sweets to their children every day to make them write pieces of homework, is it bribery or just spoiling?
“Bribing” children, family members or friends is quite common. But to which point is it bribery? In not small number of cases it is just a way to show the people you like how much you appreciate them. (Anyway, the final judgment is still up to you.)

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bribery
http://www.google.cz/imgres?imgurl=http://msnbcmedia4.msn.com/i/msnbc/Components/Art/HEALTH/070416/AP_BribingKids.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18140247/&h=344&w=352&sz=18&tbnid=k7d4eA_HPjvbMM::&tbnh=117&tbnw=120&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dbribing%2Bpictures&hl=cs&usg=__sHkNPCQNadhw3spipEVWtL7X3kU=&ei=1cf8ScyZGMPj-Aaum_mzAg&sa=X&oi=image_result&resnum=2&ct=image

Stalking

Stalking

From the psychiatrical or criminological point of view, stalking is malevolent and intentional chase and molestation of another person (a victim) whose safety is threatened by the stalker. In general stalking includes several different kinds of chasing about the victim.

Main features of stalking:
• The victim is bothered about unwanted attention (bothered by the stalker)
• The stalker repeatedly contacts the victim via mail, e-mail, phoning, texting, sending presents (Content of the messages can be nice or merry, but also offensive and intimidating. It is quite common that at first the messages are nice in order to gain the victim’s attention and contact, but then it usually changes into offences, threats, etc.)
• The stalker physically threatens the victim (waiting for the victim in front of her/his house; scratching the paint of the victim’s car; threat of violence or death, etc.)

Who are stalkers?
Stalker is a person who is happy if s/he can torment somebody.
There can be three situations:
• The victim knows the person and also knows that s/he is the stalker (probable stalker: ex-partner, colleague, acquaintance…)
• The victim knows the person but does not know that the person is the stalker (probable stalker: ex-partner, colleague, acquaintance, neighbor …)
• The victim does not know the stalker at all (probable stalker: a person who knows the victim via newspapers and media; the victim is usually a celebrity)

Kinds of stalkers:
• REJECTED STALKER (The stalker wants to renew the relationship with the victim. The victim probably is her/his: ex-partner, family member, colleague…)
• INTIMACY SEEKER (The stalker wants to start a relationship with the victim – usually a celebrity. But s/he would be satisfied also by being accepted and respected by the celebrity/victim.)
• INCOMPETENT SUITOR (The stalker wants to have an affair or a date with the victim. Mostly just sexual reasons.)
• RESENTFUL STALKER ( The stalker chases about the victim in order to revenge because s/he feels harmed by the victim. S/he wants to control and have power over the victim.)
• PREDATORY STALKER (The stoker’s behaviour is sexually aggressive. S/he collects information about the victim and fantasize about attacking the victim.)

Self-defence (from stalkers):
-Do not reply to their mails, etc.
-Keep pepper spray with you
-Do not go out alone
-Do not go to work/home using your usual path
-Contact police.

More info: http://www.trosky.cz/stalking/stalking.htm
http://cs.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalker_(osoba)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking

Bulimia nervosa

Bulimia

Bulimia is a disorder defined as repeated attacks of over-eating and extreme control of weight. But the feeling of being over-eaten is relative. (It is a mental health disorder.)
The extreme control of weight also includes intermittent period of starvation, usage of laxatives, diuretics and dehydrating agents, self-induced vomiting, over-exercising. As a result of gauntness the person becomes sensitive to cold, gets easily tired and suffers from weak blood circulation and osteoporosis (rarefaction of bones).

There are many reasons of bulimia, but the most frequent ones are:
• Wont to be slim
• Predispositions to become fat (and want to avoid it)
• Unequal spatial arrangement of body fat
• Inappropriate eating habits
• Family influence (if a member of the family is on a diet, it can negatively influence mainly teen-age people)
• Negative life situation
• Negative self-evaluation
• Family problems

How to get over bulimia? Firstly the person should allow herself/himself to eat normally and regularly, secondly s/he should forget about diets and reduce of weight and finally the person should visit a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

More info: http://www.ordinace.cz/clanek/bulimie/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bulimia_nervosa

Cutting

Cutting

It is repeated self-harming on purpose. A person suffering from self-harm cuts or scratches or beats herself/himself in order to get over some problem or mental stress. After cutting herself/himself s/he feels immediate relief because the body (in order to lessen the pain) produces endorphin (hormone which makes the person feel happy). But the relief does not last long and the person feels bad about the self-harming and cuts herself/himself again to feel relief and this way gets trapped in a never ending circle. Anyway, the circle can be undone if the person admits her/his problem and accepts professional help.

More info: movie: Secretary
http://cs.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sebepo%C5%A1kozov%C3%A1n%C3%AD

Laziness

Laziness
Laziness is a virtue. Those who can be bothered to tell you otherwise are clearly lacking it.
Emery Finkelstein

This quality is considered to be a sin (a capital sin) by Christians. But do they think of reasons of laziness? I doubt it; not all people are lazy willingly. There is also a small group of people who suffer from chronic laziness (illness). And feelings of laziness may also be a symptom of deep or clinical depression or listlessness.

On the other hand, when somebody does not want to do anything despite the fact that s/he can, then it is surely not a virtue but wickedness.

Kinds of laziness:

•Physical laziness
•Intellectual laziness (a tendency not to ask questions or investigate thoroughly, applying a kind of mental routine or just following the crowd)


More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laziness
http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Laziness

Workholism

Workholism

Work is the only essence of life to a workaholic. S/he is addicted to everything touching her/his job. But because the only way to cure the victim of any addiction is to make him/her abstain forever, workholism is not from the medical point of view an addiction, but an illness. This illness is usually being connected with “Yuppies” (young citymen extremely interested in building their career/extremely dedicated to working). This phenomenon originally (very probably) came from the USA, where bosses of big companies pushed on their employees to work harder and after hours.
Nowadays, more and more people get trapped. Reasons can be as the following:
1) Problems at home. (escape from the problems)
2) Problems with partner. (escape from the problems)
3) Compensation of inferiority complex/ low self-esteem
4) To demanding boss requiring still more and more efficiency at work (“If you do not do what I ask of you, you will loose the job.” This constant stress can start the illness as well.)

Workholism then causes other problems at home and with relationships in general or deteriorates previous problems. Workaholics usually deal with this situation via drinking alcohol – or creating any other addiction (smoking, drugs…), while the only way how to get out of it is: lessen the number of hours spent working; get involved in leisure time activities (with friends, partner…), have hobbies and be able to relax.

More info: http://cs.wikipedia.org/wiki/Workoholismus
http://sorry.vse.cz/cgi-bin/toASCII/~xmard16/vyukproj/psp_work.htm

Intolerance

Intolerance

I just met a bunch of children, somebody would say normal kids, but their approach towards other people was simply ruthless, intolerant and shocking. They were three girls and three boys all about eleven years old. While the girls were yelling (bad language) and supporting the guys, the guys were throwing cones and stones at the people around (but not at all of the people, they were choosing victims who were obviously different from them, e.g. wearing not so usual kind of clothes). It made me think and ask myself: Why? The answer may be simply like this: 1) Their parents do not pay appropriate attention to them.
2) Their parents are ruthless as well as them.
3) They feel insecure in the presence of people who are different and this fear causes their aggressiveness.
4) They are badly influence by watching violent movies.
5) They are bored. (But they are not fully aware of their actions. They do not know their behaviour is wrong.)
6) They need to prove their strength to point out their place in the society and their own signification.
7) They are being bullied themselves.

Second thing which surprised me about them was their dastardliness. When the victims showed they were more than willing to defence themselves and beat the bullies up, the children-bullies ran away. That points at other problems: their low self-esteem or missing respect completely.
But the most alarming thing is that out of these children will very probably grow up adult bullies… (It seems that school detention would not change them into good people.)

More info: http://www.nobully.org.nz/advicek.htm#two

Anorexia nervosa

Anorexia nervosa
What makes people think they are fat when the opposite is the truth? Just one look into the mirror via mind of a person who suffers from anorexia might give us the answer, but is there any?
Just two examples from the real life: A brother said to his younger teen-age sister that her favourite singer did not like chubby girls. At first she decided to reduce her weight and was on a diet. She was slimmer and slimmer but was not able to see the true picture of herself in the mirror. After couple of weeks she ended up in a hospital, weighting only 30 kilos.
Another thing badly influencing healthy development of young people are extremely slim (skinny) models; not only women but even men.
(Examples above might be two of much causation but they do not have to be.)

Unfortunately, there is no specific causation of anorexia. And when the causation cannot be found it also cannot be removed, therefore only the consequences are cured. Anyway, everything depends on the person suffering from anorexia – whether (s)he wants to be cured or not.
NB: An adult’s BMI should not be lower than 18.5.

More info: http://www.ordinace.cz/clanek/anorexie-mentalni-anorexie/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anorexia_nervosa

Rubbish
How many times a day do you slip over a banana peeling or remove a chewing-gum from your shoes? If your answer is: at least once a day, then you may agree with me that the whole situation is quite serious. But how to solve it?

First option: change the whole society into well-educated and responsible people who dump rubbish into appropriate bins to be recycled/composted
Level of Demand Factor: nearly mission impossible
Second option: make people think twice about their shopping lists; and place recycle-dustbins closer to their households so that they are reachable to every one
Level of Demand Factor: doable mission
Third option: apart from the options above, it would be useful to find out how to reduce the amount of rubbish produced at work (e.g. paper –1) if one side is scrawled over the second side can be used for making notes
2) make your own handmade-paper birthday/party card…)
Level of Demand Factor: not so difficult mission

More info: http://www.reducerubbish.govt.nz/

Gossips

Gossips

In spite of the existence of gossip column in newspapers the phenomenon of courtyard-gallery-scandalmongers has managed to survive till nowadays and it is still very popular.In the past there were people hired by politicians to go to pubs and other public places to “go sip” beer and listen to people’s opinions.

Gossips are usually used by people to communicate, warn of immoral behaviour committed by other people; and gossiping is especially spread among women to share information/reference about men who are “catch”. But gossips can be also extremely negative and can damage good name of anybody of us within a very short time (e.g. tabloid press following the life of celebrities).

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gossip

Envy
E.g.: My neighbour has a new car. I envy him and buy two new cars. / My neighbour has a new car. I envy him and pierce tyres of his car.
These two short examples above clearly demonstrate the negatives of envy: meanness, wish to inflict misfortune on others, cause of unhappiness…

Reasons: low self-esteem, eagerness

But is there anything positive about envy? Maybe when a small child envies his older brother the ability to walk and speak, the child would put more effort in learning it and achieve his goal faster. Another example could be a well-read man whose knowledge is envied by someone else and makes the person to learn more in order to catch up with the man. But now we are balancing at the tiny edge that contradistinguishes jealousy from envy. Anyway both of these qualities have something in common: They can be shown in either positive or negative way.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Envy
http://ozivote.cz/clanky/2004/11/22/slecna-zavist

Excessive Jealousy

Excessive Jealousy
Every one of us can surely remember probably the most famous example of this kind of jealousy: Othello by William Shakespeare. But believe it or not, even nowadays (several hundreds years later) there are such Othellos either in trousers or skirts.
In general is jealousy an emotion referring to negative feelings such as fear of loosing somebody precious to us. In some cases it can lead to protecting the person and paying more attention to her/him which is not so bad if it does not cross the line. And if it does cross the line? Then jealousy can change in a dangerous disease joined by stalking, insecurity, anxiety, anger, sadness and disgust. This very dangerous mixture of feelings turns in a poison which can eat up even a good long-term relationship.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy
http://en.allexperts.com/q/Deal-Jealousy-Jealous-2249/Pictures-Ex-s.htm

Gluttony

Gluttony
Eagerness to eat or lack of strong will to resist pleasure of food? Maybe both. But how many of us pass a candy shop without noticing the wonderful smell of chocolate? What makes us eat one chocolate bar after another? Possible reasons could be: stress, nervousness, ill thyroid, sweet-tooth, problems, eagerness and many others.

Is gluttony a sin? According to Bible: Yes. But in my opinion it is not a sin but a stomach-ache-causing problem which results in obesity, cardiovascular problems, problems with knees and other joints, problems with blood-pressure and breathing and so on. On the other hand I am absolutely not against good cuisine, quite the opposite. Nevertheless, it is better to be safe than sorry.

P.S.: This article should not encourage anybody to overeat himself/herself.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gluttony
http://httpyavww.knight.org/cathen/06590a.htm

Alcoholism

Alcoholism

Alcoholism can be defined as an addictive disorder or alcohol dependence. The term "alcoholism" was first used in 1849 by the physician Magnus Huss to describe the systematic adverse effects of alcohol. It is a disease which can be hardly fought by one’s will.
Four main features: • Craving – a strong need to drink
• Loss of control – not able to stop drinking once you’ve begun
• Physical dependence – withdrawal symptoms, such as nausea,
sweating or shakiness after stopping drinking
• Tolerance – the need to drink greater amounts of alcohol in order to
get "high"

Reasons: stress, influence of the environment, emotional health problems/physical health problems, genetic predisposition; foppery (as a reason to start drinking)

Effects of long abuse of alcohol:
● Physical Health Effects: cirrhosis of the liver, pancreatitis, epilepsy, polyneuropathy, alcoholic dementia, heart disease, increased chance of cancer, nutritional deficiencies, sexual dysfunction, severe cognitive problems and death from many sources (e.g. alcohol should not be consumed by asthmatics/ people suffering from too low or too high blood pressure, people taking medicaments; pregnant women – consumption of alcohol increases the risk of giving a birth to disabled children, etc.).
● Mental Health Effects: anxiety and depression disorders, psychosis, confusion, organic brain syndrome, panic disorder, alcohol withdrawal syndrome, aggressiveness
● Social Effect: risk of loosing job, risk of loosing friends/family (marital conflict/divorce), charges for drunk driving, domestic violence/public violence, emotional blackmail, loss of home, stealing; and may also result in loss of respect from the society + loneliness
● Other Risks: homicide, suicide

Solution: alcoholism treatment, detoxification followed by a combination of supportive therapy (e.g. psychotherapy), attendance at self-help groups; prevention of alcoholism

vs.

Alcohol as medicine:

-Antiseptic to disinfect the skin before injections are given
-Ethanol-based soaps

-Alcohol is also used as a preservative for specimen
-Solvent in medical drugs, perfumes (aromatherapy)

More info: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/alcoholism.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcoholism
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2TUqhQ6QLg
http://www.answerbag.com/q-view/523475
http://www.aim-digest.com/gateway/general/articles/asthma.htm
http://www.upmchealthplan.com/insight/Asthma/April_2007/avoid.html
http://blood-pressure.emedtv.com/high-blood-pressure/alcohol-and-blood-pressure.html

Emotional Blackmail

Emotional Blackmail

I am quite positive that most of us experienced emotional blackmail in at least one of its forms. Parents surely remember their children’s whining in front of a toy-shop; or quite the opposite: bribing their of-springs with chocolate in order to make them “good babies” (i.e. silent and obedient). But there are also worse forms of emotional abuse: threatening (to make the victim do what the blackmailer wants saying, for E.g.: If you do not do it, I will tell your mother.), manipulating (the blackmailer demands repayment of “a dept”, E.g. You owe me a favour, can’t you remember?), keeping the victim under pressure (by yelling at him/her, blaming…), using the victim’s weaknesses against the victim in general. Reasons why the blackmailer does so (probably) are: insecurity of the blackmailer; fear of being abandoned; fear of loosing control over the situation; the blackmailer was blackmailed in the past and learnt to use emotional blackmail to gain what (s)he wants.

Victims of emotional blackmail usually feel desperate, insecure, unimportant, unworthy, guilty and unable to step out of the never ending pressure of FOG (Fear, Obligation and Guilt). [i] This FOG prevents them from thinking clearly and seeing the whole situation from a different point of view – and that’s what they need to do to be able to control their lives themselves: to detach from their emotions. [ii]

[i] Lauren LaBate, http://www.angelfire.com/vt/rcwn/Pagefifteen.html
[ii] Lauren LaBate, http://www.angelfire.com/vt/rcwn/Pagefifteen.html

More info: http://peterfox.com.au/family_blackmail.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/vt/rcwn/Pagefifteen.html

Shoplifting

Shoplifting

Why do people who can afford to buy things shoplift them instead? Maybe it is caused by the fact that many people who are well-off are simply bored with their life and therefore they look for an adventure. On the other hand there is also a number of poor people who shoplift food and other things to be able to survive.

Another case is an organised group of professional shoplifters (also known as “boosters”) who steal purposely and the costs caused by them (being bigger than in other cases) may result in price increases. Apart from that, there are also cases of employee burglary which negatively contribute to the whole problem and make it untransparent. Thus it is very difficult to create a thorough picture of the situation.
Hopefully the modern security technologies will help to solve the problem.

More info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoplifting
http://www.crimedoctor.com/shoplifting.htm

Avarice vs. Shopaholism

Avarice vs. Shopaholism

Harpagon, that’s my idol. He would be a good medicine against shopaholism. Not a single penny spent by anybody without thinking twice.
Vice versus vice – maybe it could work this way: A niggard could be re-educated by a shopaholic and vice versa. But what makes people be avaricious? One of the reasons may be the person’s background. E.g. one who was brought up by a poor family can be badly affected by experiencing lack of food, money, etc. And in future it results in over-exceeded saving of anything, especially of money. And it also makes the person greedy and unable to share his/her property. On the other hand, a shopaholic does not know what it is to save money, so in my opinion it would be more than interesting to place these two (in this case imaginative) people together and observe their reactions. Who would win?

More info: http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/02148b.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oniomania

Visiting Prostitutes

Visiting Prostitutes is both dangerous (you never know who her/his boss is) and unhealthy (bear in mind HIV…). In the first case, as I implied above, you can get in trouble with the pimp who (being in good mood) can just let you go without your wallet or (being in bad mood) can change your physical appearance (punch would be the gentlest way). In the second case, you would leave unharmed, with your wallet but also (very probably, especially if your meeting was unprotected) with a souvenir (guess which one: illness, gravidity…). But on the other hand, how many clients of the oldest business worry about it? If you are the lucky one, you would survive without complications (of course, except for a slap given by your jealous partner who unveiled the truth).

P.S.: This article is not supposed to be offensive or admonishing to criminality, bad behaviour etc.

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Lying

Lying

Kinds of Lying + Reasons:
● White lies – To protect somebody
- To be noble (not to harm somebody’s feelings)
- Excuses: being late (small lies/minor matters)
- Lying to children about Santa Claus (but some children can take it very bad)
- Placebo Effect (lying in people’s best interest)

● Bad lies – To protect/benefit ourselves (badly)
- Covering something bad up (e.g. infidelity)
- Political lying; propaganda, commercials
- Lying to manipulate with people
- Lying for fun
- Lying to seem to be a better person (the liar is for instance a murderer)
- Perjury

● Lying as a syndrome/illness (e.g. A British man, Sean Hodgson, ended up behind the bars in spite of being innocent. He is said to be a pathological liar.)


Is good to be able to lie?
In my opinion is good to have the opportunity to make your choice between lying and telling the truth because your choices create your personality.

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http://www.novinky.cz/zahranici/evropa/164227-brit-stravil-27-let-ve-vezeni-kvuli-omylu-laboratore-a-lhani.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2009/mar/18/prisoner-hodgson-murder-quashed-miscarriage

Infidelity

Infidelity

What is infidelity? Is it just cheating on your partner or has it much deeper story?
In some rare cases adultery can better your relationship. According to Mira Kirshenbaum
(an American psychologist), adultery can even save it. And what’s more, she also claims adulterers and adulteresses are mostly kind and good people who are just in search of love. On the other hand her colleague, Leila Collins, strongly disagrees. In her opinion we should not pity them and support them, either.

P.S.: In my opinion is infidelity a vice, but we are just people so I do not objurgate anybody.
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Smoking

Smoking
I made a little survey among my smoking friends and acquaintances and these are the results:

Reasons of Smoking:
● Free choice of lifestyle (personal freedom)
● Having a break (you dedicate your time to yourself; you do something for yourself)
● Relaxing (getting rid of physical/mental stress; enjoyment)
● Foppery (it makes you look ´mature´ / interesting, etc.)
● Curiosity (Why not to try it, friends say it’s great…)
● Want to lose weight
● Want to avoid liability for service (a young man smoked 60 cigarettes a day, then run up and down a hill => the doctor confirmed the man was not suitable for army)
● To look attractive/sexy (part of your image – rough/sexy/naughty/nasty…)

● To make new friends/ acquaintances (socialising)
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● To deter people from contacting you (cigarette as a shield)

● To rebel against society (e.g.: gender issue => Marlene Dietrich smoking cigarettes and wearing trousers => women are equal to men)

Fascination of Smoking – (Why?):
Smoking is to some people sexy/seductive (even to some non-smokers). On the other hand, non-smokers usually don’t like the smell (so the fascination is limited).

Why Some Smokers Want to Stop (?):
● Smoking is expensive
● Health problems
● Influenced by non-smokers (family; friends)
● Death of a close friend/family member who was a smoker
● Becoming mature (no foppery any more [?])
● Anti-smoking presentation during biological seminar


P.S.: I have no intention in supporting smokers to continue smoking or in supporting non-smokers to be more/less tolerant of smokers. Let everyone judge for herself/himself.

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